She Loves Me, She Loves Me Not

According to Wiki, the phrase “She loves me, she loves me not” is derived from a French game called “enfeebler la marguerite”, which means “to pluck the daisy”. The game involves picking one petal off a flower (usually a daisy) and saying “She loves me” or “She loves me not” alternately. The phrase that is spoken when the last petal is plucked supposedly reveals the truth about the feelings of the person of interest.

The game was also popular among Victorian maids who wished to know if their suitors loved them back. In some variations of the game, the number of petals or the color of the flower would indicate different degrees of love, such as “a little”, “a lot”, “passionately”, or “not at all”.

For example, some people might play the game or say the phrase as a way of expressing their hope or desire for someone to love them back. They might not really believe that the outcome of the game or phrase determines the reality of their feelings, but rather use it as a form of wishful thinking or self-reassurance.

In this case, the game and phrase are more about the person’s own emotions and expectations, rather than the other person’s.

On the other hand, some people might play the game or say the phrase as a way of testing or exploring their feelings for someone. They might not have a clear idea of how they feel about the other person, or they might be unsure of how to act on their feelings. In this case, the game and phrase are more about the person’s curiosity and uncertainty, rather than the other person’s.

Let’s be honest, love, relationships and romance are rarely, if ever, random or arbitrary.

They don’t happen by chance and glance; they happen by want and will.

They are almost always deliberate and intentional.

To so many that sit in my workshops and classrooms, new to iPhone photography, their journey at best, could be described as unarranged, unplanned, undirected, erratic, accidental, hit-and-miss, like plucking petals from a daisy.

And while I would agree and give a nod to the general spontaneity and serendipity of photography practices, the core, consistent, remarkable stuff, is more born out of great intention and deliberation.

In my own experience, coming on 5 decades now, photography is planned and systematic.

It is based on science and a whole bunch of premeditated, purposeful, considered, studied, and volitional actions.
Trust me, when you love photography, she will love you, unconditionally, consistently, every time, in equal and full measure, right back.



Jack Hollingsworth